The rise of what is referred to as the “hookup culture” is noticeable even if we only look at the large number of terms related to dating. We have a large pool of terms to choose from when we want to say we are not in a committed relationship. To name but a few, we do casual dating, no-strings-attached flings, one night stands, getting together, hanging out. But how do people actually go about finding a partner in different parts of the world?
We got one answer to this question from a study on young New Yorkers and Berliners, which gave us a little bit of insight about the courtship differences between the U.S. and Eastern Europe. Turns out, when it comes to hooking up, Americans and Germans are worlds apart. While the U.S. folks tend to spend a lot of time experimenting with different partners, the German young are in it for the long run.
For one, Americans tend to be more formal and calculated daters. Between the first chat, and the point where they get to call themselves a couple, American guys and girls are going through pretty well established steps. A certain pattern seems to be in place, and the emphasis is on people being in control. Before becoming exclusive, if at all, U.S. folks go through scheduling 1 or more dates where they test each other’s compatibility, both physical and personality-wise. All the while, the focus is on rationalizing their personal needs and wants, something that we may call “self-reflexivity”. In search for a steadier partner, Jane will spend a good deal of time asking how a relationship with Jack will make her life and personality any different than one with John. The point is to go out with more than one partner, and then perhaps choose one to become exclusive with, or continue having fun with casual dating. Saying that one is in an exclusive relationship tends to be the end of a well-thought process, and not a label assigned easily.
Conversely, German guys and girls told their stories in much different fashion. If we are to think of how Germans see dating, we don’t need to waste much ink. In short, they often happen to find partners at parties or get-togethers. That’s where they realize they’re attracted to each other, so after a bit of conversation, they hook up, and sometimes love happens. The overall belief is that when Johanna and Klaus meet and fall in love, well, that was meant to be. That is to say, partners are thought to have less control when faced with attraction, so based on that alone, they hook up. If all goes well, they become a couple, and unlike their U.S. counterparts, they’re not shy on using the term “couple”.
Rules or no rules, Western or Eastern, we’re all for hooking up and having awesome experience with whoever one may fancy on Eastloveswest.com. Granted, the number one no-no and the only compromise no one should make is safety. So ladies and gents, whenever you go out for parties or your carefully planned date, don’t forget to bring protection. After that, let the love flow!